Self help isn’t meant to be “other’s help” or widely apply, and yet, most self-help creators share it to be exactly that, because they, at some level, need to sell you on something.
Self-help is a complicated topic, because if it weren’t such a profitable industry, I truly believe that it would be amazing. But it’s a hugely profitable industry, worth more than $11 Billion in the United States alone.
It’s full of writers and people that aren’t helping you achieve your dream life, they’re helping themselves achieve their dream life. But on your dime.
“But that’s okay. My…
On August 14th, I wrote a piece titled: Today, I Write. It was about beginnings. It was about stepping into something new, even though I didn’t fully understand what that even meant.
I wrote about wanting to commit to something and see it through, even though in the past, I have been more interested in ideas than execution.
In that piece, I wrote about the fear of publishing my ideas, about the anxiety that comes from knowing that anyone can read what I’ve written.
Don’t read it. It’s a waste of your time.
But since then, a lot of what…
Our world fights against hope and positivity. The news is negative, social media is just the highlights from angry people, the world is burning up, corporations are evil, politicians are corrupt, the pandemic won’t end, and families are falling apart.
There’s a lot of money in keeping us upset. The news, social media outlets, cable networks that need the news to survive, social justice performers like Bo Burnham, self help writers and creators, and even a lot of the influencers we feel like we know. Their profit is directly correlated with our frustration and unhappiness.
If we’re happy, we don’t…
Ron Rivera, the head coach of the Washington Football Team, is immuno-comprimised. Why, you ask?
He battled cancer throughout 2020, and literally got cancer treatments throughout the first half of 2020 while still coaching. He’s now pretty upset with his team not getting vaccinated.
Vaccines aren’t being required for players, but the NFL’s stance this offseason has been strongly in favor of the vaccine.
Coaches have been required, and players have been encouraged strongly, including the fact that if a team misses a game due to COVID positive players, they won’t get it rescheduled a la 2020, they’ll have it…
Is it better to write for quantity or for quality? This is a big question, and there are answers all over.
Frankly, it’s not a real question. “Quality” is subjective. It always has been. Good writing is writing that people can relate to.
But if it’s written from your life or from experience, aren’t there people that will relate to it?
And if it’s fiction, not grounded in reality, doesn’t that mean people won’t relate to it?
Instead, good writing is work that people relate to and is seen by those people. All writing can be related to…
Whether for better or worse is up for discussion, but Tim Ferriss pioneered the idea of Lifestyle Design, a topic in the world that makes digital nomad lifestyles possible and encourages us to travel the world as remote workers.
In his book, the 4-hour workweek, Tim Ferriss lays out all the ways he went from a successful (but overworked) CEO to a digital nomad working a handful of hours every week and spending the rest of his time becoming a World Champion kickboxer and Guinness world record-holding tango dancer.
He did whatever he wanted, whenever he wanted. …
When I was a college student, I studied business and ended up writing a lot of papers. Some of them were really good, and a lot of them had elements of good writing and elements of bad writing. Some were mostly bad writing.
To be fair, a lot of them had been written close to their deadline. Some of them were written past their deadline.
Anyway, that’s not important.
One evening, as I was sitting with some other students, my friend Judy mentioned that she was struggling with a paper. …
“FINE” I slammed my car door and started the engine. This always happens. I sped out of the apartment complex into the night.
I often respond to my anger this way, slamming doors and storming off to seethe. But in all of the times I’ve lost my temper and gotten angry, I’ve never once felt good about it afterwards. I always regret it.
Anger isn’t a “bad” emotion. Emotions themselves aren’t good or bad, they’re simply emotions. I struggle with that, but understanding that feels like a key to self acceptance, which is one of my goals.
However, responding to…
When disagreements arise, I’m right and you’re wrong. That’s how everyone approaches arguments. Myself included. I’m right until I’m proven otherwise, and even then, my pride won’t let me admit I’m wrong enough to change my mind anyway.
But what if we approached disagreements differently?
What if you’re the one that’s wrong instead of the opponent? How would you approach it differently? Rather than approaching the disagreement on the offensive, what if it was an exploration instead? What if you’re the one that’s wrong, not them?
Would you put your ego aside and try to learn, coaxing their arguments out…
Every single day, we encounter people in our routine. I run into people at work, on my daily walks through my neighborhood, at the grocery store running errands, and on social media on Twitter and other platforms.
I probably exchange a word with more than 50 people on an average day, and sometimes those people are very rude.
That really surprises me sometimes. Maybe it’s someone I respect who’s rude, or maybe it’s a stranger that’s just not my cup of tea.
But why does that actually surprise me?
In the world, there are nearly 8 billion people, and rising…